Dedicated To Mature Women & Older Women Younger Men Relationships

If you’re a cub (younger man) living in Australia, you might want to take notice of the upcoming Sydney Cougar Convention being held at Burwood RSL on February 12th. The convention is coinciding with the premiere of the hot television show, Cougar Town starring Sydney Cox.

Relationship guru  Rich Gosse is holding threecougar conventions in Sydney, Brisbane and Melbourne looking for regional Miss Cougars. The final event will move to the Sunshine Coast in June to name Miss Cougar Australia 2010.

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Mature Women as Cougars were scandalous then intriguing and are now simply ordinary.

Thanks to the booming divorce market, we now live in an age when more and more 35-and-older women are both single and financially independent. Add image-enhancing prospects created by fitness, diet and plastic surgery, and you have something approximating a new species of woman. And every new species needs a new name, in this case homo cougarus - The Cougar.

This is the Golden Age for mature women and we not just talking on the Hollywood scene. You have Katie Couric presenting the news to the nation every night. Women such as Nancy Pelosi and Hillary Clinton on the political front and fabulous Hollywood ladies such as Helen Mirren, Meryl Streep, Susan Sarandon all have some things in common. Most are highly intelligent, and most are glamorous. These women and the breed of women they represent have their own money, their own power.

Backing up the cougar craze as the buzzpoint of a larger population shift are the statistics cited in the new book Microtrends, which features a chapter on cougars. Among the book’s findings:

U.S Census bureau statistics show that the number of couples in which the woman was significantly older than the man shot up by more than 3 million between 1997 and 2003.

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I don’t think I’ve ever met a man you had hardly any common sense. For you young studs out there looking to hook up with a mature older woman for the experience of a lifetime, here’s a few pointers to get your first date with your hot cougarheaded in the right direction:

• Trust me when I say she won’t be interested in the number of women you’ve slept with and  your ability to drink a 24 without falling down
• She won’t want to hear about your sorry love life. Keep the Ex’s out of the conversation.
• Unless your a sumo wrestler, don’t pig out on that first date. Try not to wipe the spaghetti sauce off your face with your sleeve. Keep those eating noises to a minimum please.
• Stay off that damn cell phone. Put it on mute if necessary.
• Check your attire - no holes, stains etc., and if you’re wearing running shoes find some that aren’t riddled with holes.
• For God’s sake use deordorant. You guys tend to take the term “macho” a little too far.
• You’re probably a little awkward and baffled why the hell she picked you, but if you respond to her conversation with one syllable answers, you’re going to find yourself left high and dry. A mature woman expects her man to be interested in her and be able to hold his own in a conversation
• Some things are on a “Need To Know” basis. Try to keep some of those traumatizing experiences in your past to a minimum. This is a “Get To Know You Date”.
• So you’ve had 8 glasses of wine over dinner and you don’t like the way the guy at the next table is looking at you. I know you’d like to stand up and show her just how “Macho” you really are,  but mature women don’t care to post bail on their first dates
• So she’s not what you expected and probably you’re not what she was hoping for either, so please remember to keep your roaming eye focused on your date. I know the chick at the next table is giving you the eye, but a little courtesy and good manners goes a long way.

These ten little dating tips for a younger man older woman relationship could apply to just about any dating senario.

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What is a ‘cougar relationship’?

Put quite simply, it is a relationship between an older woman and a younger man.

It seems there’s been an increase in this type of relationship over the last few years. But it is also something that has existed for a long time. It is often the older celebrity woman that gets noticed by the media when they have a relationship with a younger man. People like, Mae West, Mary Tyler Moore, Raquel Welsh and Susan Sarandon.

But what’s the attraction in a cougar relationship?

It has often been said that opposites attract, which is why men and women get together. Traditionally tough it has been the older man with a younger woman, usually not more than a few years between them. But why shouldn’t a man have a relationship with an older woman or indeed a woman have a relationship with a younger man. In societies nowadays, barriers are being broken down everywhere so why are cougar relationships still seen as unusual?

An estimate says that about 1/3rd of women aged 40 or over have dated younger men. So what’s the attraction for these women?

• Is it simply sexual, thinking that a younger man will have more stamina and satisfy them better?
• Is it a power thing, do these women enjoy having influence or a ‘mothering’ aspect over their partner?
• Is it simply female ‘trophy hunting’, are these younger men used as ‘trophy partners’. Maybe such women are trying to prove to themselves that they are still attractive and able to pull young virile men, possibly they have problems accepting their real age. Or is it simply that these women enjoy a loving successful relationship with a man who just happens to be their junior?

But what’s the attraction for the man? Does he see the woman as a ‘mother figure’? Does he see her as an older experienced woman; someone who will ‘teach’ him. Again, is it a ‘power thing’? does the guy see the wealthy, older woman as being powerful and feel that he will gain some power by being associated with her? Or could it simply be that the man is enjoying a loving relationship with a woman who just happens to be older?

Well, the answers are going to be as varied in number according to the number of such relationships. You see, each relationship is different and may involve many of the aspects mentioned above and maybe more. The point is, that such relationships should not be seen as unusual like they traditionally have been.

Yet there are problems with cougar relationships. Can such a relationship last as one partner gets older and the other has yet to reach middle age. Can such relationships bear the stress of having children. What if there are children already involved perhaps from previous relationships, especially if the children are older than the male partner!

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We think Katie Couric is still one hell of a cougar even though her romance has now fizzled with her boy toy, Brooks Perlin, we salute the lady for knowing how to pick em’.

Screw the ratings when you’ve got a hunky looking triathlete with one of the best pedigrees in the country. So who is Brooks Perlin? The prep school-educated son of a rich Connecticut family, he attended prestigious Williams College.

“The age difference scared her off at first,” said a friend of the CBS Evening News anchor. Rumor had it that Perlin had a roving eye with the ladies. Maybe this is what finally did scare her off.

Katie Couric is the anchor and managing editor of the CBS Evening News with Katie Couric a 60 Minutes correspondent and anchor of CBS News primetime specials. When the CBS Evening News with Katie Couric debuted on Sept. 5, 2006, Couric became the first female solo anchor of a weekday network evening news broadcast. Since then, she has reported on and anchored from some of the biggest stories, domestically and internationally.

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Is it any wonder that 34% of women over 40 are dating man who are younger than themselves? The kittens or younger women are busy trying to figure out what the hell they want out of life. Many still believe that they need a relationship to find happiness. They still believe in the dream wedding, the picket fence and living happily ever after, and they’re spending most of their time trying to find someone who’ll give it to them. They haven’t yet discovered that you can be happy even if you are single.

The cougar or mature women seem to have eclipsed this time of their lives. What’s more [tag]sexy than having the confidence to know that you can do everything a younger woman can and probably do it better.

Cougars have confidence and wisdom working for them. Somewhere through the years the cougar has discovered that happiness is not dependent on someone else. She could give a damn about the opinions of others as she has spent too many of her younger years toeing the line. She’s looking to explore life, love and sex and what better place to do it than with someone who’s got the vitality and youth and will appreciate her.

Find Yourself A Mature Woman!

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For WannaBe Cougars only……

If you’re thinking about breaking your own private glass ceiling and considering an affair with a younger man consider the following before you do:

• Great sex is an important part of any relationship, but you may decide that great abs are not as important as a lover who shares some of your life’s experiences.

• Be careful. What if you fall in love with your boy toy? He may be thinking about getting married and having a family. Chances are you’ve already been there, done that. This type of glitch in a relationship is nearly impossible to overcome and the possibility of your May to December romance won’t have a future

• You’re going to need to expand you horizons somewhat. More important than years on the planet are shared values, similar interests, and chemistry.

• Are you going to have a hard time dealing with disapproval that may come from you friends and family?

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The hypocrisy of our society seems to congratulate older men when they find themselves escorting a young attractive women. A recent interview showed an over 50 gentlemen who’s criteria for dating was to find a women approximately half his age and to add 5 years. When he does, his contemporaries are envious of his “catch”. If an older woman comes up with the same senario, the couple is often met with ridicule.

If you’re an older woman in a relationship with a younger man, you need to take a look at just where his priorities lay.

In many cases, mature women are finding that their young men prefer to keep the affair to themselves. If you haven’t met any of his friends, he’s having trouble reconciling the relationship. If you’ve met his friends but not his family, you can be sure he’s somewhat embarrassed by the relationship. After all if he’s so satisfied with your relationship, why doesn’t he have the balls to tell his friends and parents and introduce you to them with pride.

Society may be changing, and while younger men are finding love with mature women, we are dealing with a senario that has been considered scandalous and taboo in society.

Our young lovers are just that - young lovers. In many cases they are immature and heaven forbid, still living at home with the parents. You need to take a close look at how he’s adjusting to falling in love with an older woman. You may need to step up to the plate and guide him through the process.

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BoyToy or GirlToy -  I’m as confused as hell.

On the heels of a ruling that struck down California’s laws against gay marriage, Ellen DeGeneres announced her plans to wed longtime girl-toy, Portia de Rossi. Ellen, 50, and her longtime love (since 2004 which can be “longtime” by Hollywood Standards), Portia who’s 35, made the announcement before Ellen’s cheering audience.

The California’s Supreme Court ruled that people have a fundamental “right to marry” the partner of their choosing – therefore the previous ban on gay marriage was ruled unconstitutional.

One key to their happiness, DeGeneres said last year, is that they learn from one another. “She’s taught me lessons about myself, and I feel like I’ve taught her,” said the TV host. “We’ve both changed and grown, and we just feel like, ‘Oh, okay, this is completion.’ ”

Seems to me Ellen had similar things to say about wierd Anne Heche at one time!

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Some love stories just pull at the heart strings. This is the story of Britain’s oldest bride. She’s 94 and her boy toy is a measly 86.

It seems that Winston Barraclough met Bess Atkins in 2005 when Winston, a widower, was volunteering as a bus driver for the local hospital. His bus picked her up from her home and he instantly “took a shine” to Bess, a former civil servant, who had been a widow for 40 years. During that first fateful drive, he actually stopped to buy her a box of chocolates!

But it was only later, when she went searching for him, that romance blossomed. “When he dropped me off on that first meeting. I didn’t even know his name but I tracked him down to a shop in the centre I knew he visited,” Bess said.

“I was a bit nervous when I rang him to ask him around for a coffee - I thought he might think I was a fast woman.”

“But we had a great chemistry and I thought why not?”

Bess said Winston proposed to her in January of this year on New Year’s Day.

“Winston said he had something serious to say,” she said. “I thought it was some medical problem and feared the worst,”

Instead he popped the question - “Will you be my wife please. I would love to marry you.” Bess was shocked but I said “Yes, that would be lovely.”

Bess and Winston exchanged vows April 5 at St Nicholas Church in Hornsea, East Yorkshire, which happens to be the same church in which the new Mrs Barraclough first married almost 70 years ago, ten days before the outbreak of the Second World War.

Bess remarked that “Marrying in the same church was lovely and brought back “a lot of happy memories.”

The Rev. Phillip Lamb, who married them, said: “Love has no boundaries. It’s never too late for anyone and Winston and Bess are living proof of that.”

What did I learn from this lovely little tidbit?

• There’s hope for me yet. I need to start considering a boy toy that doesn’t necessary have the physique of Matthew McConaughey.
• I haven’t had a box of chocolates bought for me for some time. The chocolates the children give me get classified under “obligations to the old lady”, and don’t qualify.
• I need to quit hanging around the local coffee shops and Wal Mart and start prowling the bus stops.
• I’d like to know what hospital hires an 83 year old coot to drive it’s buses?

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