Not to piss on the birthday party, but there is now a new study circulating on the Net that confirms what many of us have known for a long time…… Birth Control Pills Screw With Your Sex Drive!

I had foolishly thought that getting myself a new boy-toy would bring back what seemed to have been slipping away over the years. It turns out that a younger man older women scenario may not work as the culprit to my diminished desire may be rooted in the 30+ years I’ve been on the birth control pill.

Women have a terrible reputation when it comes to our sex drive. We’re portrayed as forever having a “headache” in an effort to avoid a rendezvous between the sheets.

Back To The Pill…..

The birth control pill is being used by nearly 80% of American women who were born after 1945. This new research suggests that the pill may inhibit more than just pregnancy. The pill may also significantly, and perhaps permanently, dampen your sexual drive.

For the past thirty years, researchers and pill users have acknowledged that the pill can cause a number of side effects ranging from weight gain to depression. An additional drawback for many women is that the birth control pill can inhibit sex drive. In particular, the pill appears to:

* decrease libido
* decrease sexual enjoyment
* decrease lubrication during sexual intercourse

Why Does the Pill Affect Sex Drive?

It appears that the birth control pill affects sex drive because it acts directly on a woman’s sexual hormones. In particular, the birth control pill inhibits the production of androgens, including testosterone, in a woman’s ovaries. (Androgens have a direct effect on the pleasure that you experience during sexual intercourse.)

The research isn’t the first to find such a link, said Dr. Irwin Goldstein, director of sexual medicine at Alvarado Hospital in San Diego and a clinical professor of surgery at the University of California, San Diego.

The new study, he said, is “more evidence that when you fool around with hormones, you fool around with your sex life.”

The German research team evaluated 1,086 women, most in a stable relationship with the same partner for six months before answering questions about their sexual functioning and their contraceptive practices.

Using a standard index to measure female sexual function, the researchers found that nearly 33 percent of the women were at risk for female sexual dysfunction. The problems involved a range of factors, such as lack of orgasm, desire, satisfaction, arousal and lubrication.

Before you ditch your pills you need to consider:

At the time the pill promised us worry-free sex and total sexual control even though US officials at the time were very uncomfortable with the oral contraceptive.

Before the Food and Drug Administration approved the first oral contraceptive on May 9, 1960, the only other birth control options were the diaphragm, condoms, the rhythm method, and in extreme cases, sterilization. Those were the more commonly used methods. More unorthodox solutions included vinegar sponges, olive oil, and even bleach. NOT THAT’S FOOD FOR THOUGHT!

I’m thinking it’s time the men “stepped up to the plate” with their own “pill”.

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As the day set aside to express your love and devotion to someone has evolved over the centuries, we’ve managed to turn it into a message about how your love may be measured by what you buy.

Where did Valentine’s Day originate? It appears to stem from Imperial Roman times – around the 3rd centruy.

The Romans held a yearly festival in mid February called the Feast Of Lupercus. One of the customs associated with the feast was the drawing of girl’s names from a vase. On Lupercus Eve the young men would drawn these names and the girl he chose would be his sexual companion for the year. (now that sounds like a plan…..)

The Emperor Claudius believed that the best way to keep his army strong was not to allow the soldiers to marry and have families, the logic being that being tied down to their family would interfere with their work for the Empire. During his reign he outlawed marriages and the custom of a yearly sexual companion associated with the Feast was upheld.

Predictably, many of the soldiers and their partners fell in love and they wanted to participate in the union of marriage and pledge their eternal devotion to each other. Desperate, some couples turned to the new religion of Christianity.

A local Roman priest, Father Valentine agreed to marry the desperate couples secretly. Valentine was clearly defying the Emperor, who eventually found out. The Emperor ordered Valentine to renounce his faith. While confined in jail it is said that Valentine either fell in love with the jailer’s daughter or cured her of blindness. In the story where he cured the young maiden of blindness it is said that she fell so madly in love with him that she tried to have his life spared. Love letters were exchanged in both stories and on the day of his execution by beheading he left her a note and signed it “From your Valentine”.

Today we know February 14th as St. Valentine’s Day because as the religion Christianity became more prevalent in “modern society”, the concerned priests wanted to abolish the pagan custom of The Feast of Lupercus. Unfortunately, due to the popularity, the priests could not just abolish the holiday for fear of losing newly acquired followers. Instead it was decided to Christianize the pagan celebration of the Feast of Lupercus by changing the name and to give further Christian meaning to the day.

St. Valentine was chosen as his association with honouring true love seemed appropriate. The popular custom of drawing girls’ names that was associated with the Feast was substituted for Saints’ names. Then on St. Valentine’s Day these Saints’ names would be drawn by young people. The youth were supposed to emulate their chosen Saint for the following year. This custom lasted until the fourteenth century.

Sometime during the Middle Ages men and women began to exchange hand-made cards on St. Valentine’s Day. Another tradition had been born. These cards were elaborately decorated and contained love dedications and even proposals of marriage. They were never signed, as this was considered bad luck, and thus the tradition of the “secret admirer” started. Valentine’s Day cards increased in popularity during the 1700s and the cards were made with the precious materials of satin, ribbon and lace. This was expensive and so most of the general population could not participate. With the Industrial Revolution in Great Britain in the 1800s commercial valentines became available. These cards were still expensive and some were so ornate that they could cost upwards of $10!

The next century saw a new form of Valentine’s Day cards called the “Penny Dreadful”. These cards were cheap and almost anyone could afford them because they only cost a penny – as the name implies. They were made cheaply, the artwork amateurish and the colouring uneven. The cards contained insults to old maids, teachers and the like (another idea that we may want to bring back). As time passed these hateful sentiments disappeared and were discarded for the more thoughtful sentiments of romance, love, admiration and friendship.

Valentine’s Day has changed dramatically over the centuries, and is now celebrated as a cheap commercial holiday in which we can all buy five dollar dreadfuls to give to our loved ones. Despite this, Valentine’s Day is still one of your best chances to get lucky. So go out there get some lovin.

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I found this great article……..

Just when did you stop trying to impress your partner?  It seems inevitable in most relationships:  The longer you’ve been together, the bigger the panties get.

Early on, you may not wear any.  For some reason, men find this incredibly sexy.  Perhaps it’s their genetic laziness – the same gene that causes them to watch an infomercial after the game because they don’t know where the remote is and they sure as hell aren’t getting up to look for it.  The idea of reaching up your skirt and finding nothing standing between them and your sweet spot drives them insane.

After a short time, you spice it up with a sexy thong.  This turns him on, too.  Again… genetics.  Men are hunters, and he needs to explore your “nethers” finding where that little strip of material disappeared to.  We, as women, need to encourage this!  Thongs, g-strings, crotchless panties… They all do the trick to get your man to hunt and gather.

Then, a little more material comes into the picture and you start wearing teddies, babydolls, and camis.  This works wonders in the world of male genetics because men have always been fascinated with uncovering treasures.  Boys love “diggers”… bulldozers and the like.  Granted, probably not the gentlest of methods, but what do we care?  Rip those clothes off, baby!  They see something they like, know there’s something more to love underneath, and suddenly they’re on a mission to uncover the secrets of your world.

The step women take after this puzzles me.  At some point, women start buying these enormous cotton granny panties.  I hear excuse after excuse about how they’re “comfortable” or how there’s no reason to “bother” with thongs and such anymore.  WHAT???  Let’s think logically here.  ALL panties are gonna migrate up your ass at some point during the day, agreed?  That comfort stuff you spew is bullshit.  I’d much rather have a half-inch of fabric intentionally there than to be ducking around a corner to wiggle five inches worth of material out of my ass.

As for male genetics and granny panties?  We know men are lazy.  We’ve established that’s why minimal clothing is ideal.  While that excites them, granny panties have the opposite effect.  That much fabric reminds them of a blanket and they want nothing more than to roll over and go to sleep.

So use his genetics to your advantage.  Encourage him to explore and remind him there is one hell of a treasure to be unearthed!!!

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Love Has Eye for Plastic Surgery

Love is not blind – at least when it comes to facial plastic surgery.

Of people who are dating or married, 59 percent of women and 54 percent of men would like to change at least one feature on their partner’s face, according to an American Academy of Facial Plastic and Reconstructive Surgery.

It found that men were most likely to take suggestions about plastic surgery as an insult. Women were more likely than men to take suggestions as gestures of love and when a sweetheart offered to pay, were twice as likely to go ahead with plastic surgery.

“This survey shows that love is not blind and, in fact, has an eye for improvement,” academy president Dr. Keith LaFerriere said in a statement.

The Alexandria, Virginia, academy sponsored the telephone survey of 1,000 adults across the United States, including 738 who were dating or married. It had a margin of error of plus or minus 3.2 percent.

Respondents said they would change their lover’s hair (24 percent women, 17 percent men), wrinkles (9 percent women, 11 percent men), nose (11 percent women, 9 percent men), mouth (6 percent each), eyes (5 percent each) or ears (4 percent each).

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My name is Joe. Let me relate how I handled the situation with my wife, Bev. When I retired a few years ago, it became necessary for Bev to get a full-time job along with her part-time job, both for extra income and for the health benefits that we needed.

Shortly after she started working, I noticed she was beginning to show her age. I usually get home from the golf club about the same time she gets home from work.

Although she knows how hungry I am, she almost always says she has to rest for half an hour or so before she starts dinner.  I don’t yell at her. Instead, I tell her to take her time and just wake me when she gets dinner on the table. I generally have lunch in the Men’s Grill at the club so eating out is not reasonable. I’m ready for some home-cooked grub when I hit that door. She used to do the dishes as soon as we finished eating. But now it’s not unusual for them to sit on the table for several hours after dinner.

I do what I can by diplomatically reminding her several times each evening that they won’t clean themselves.  I know she really appreciates this, as it does seem to motivate her to get them done before she goes to bed.

Another symptom of aging is complaining, I think. For example, she will say that it is difficult for her to find time to pay the monthly bills during her lunch hour. But, boys, we take ‘em for better or worse, so I just smile and offer encouragement.  I tell her to stretch it out over two or even three days. That way she won’t have to rush so much. I also remind her that missing lunch completely now and then wouldn’t hurt her any (if you know what I mean). I like to think tact is one of my strong points.

When doing simple jobs, she seems to think she needs more rest periods.  She had to take a break when she was only half finished mowing the yard.  I try not to make a scene.  I’m a fair man.  I tell her to fix herself a nice, big, cold glass of freshly squeezed lemonade and just sit for a while.  And, as long as she is making one for herself, she may as well make one for me too.

I know that I probably look like a saint in the way I support Bev. I’m not saying that showing this much consideration is easy.  Many men will find it difficult. Some will find it impossible!  Nobody knows better than I do how frustrating women get as they get older.  However, guys, even if you just use a little more tact and less criticism of your aging wife because of this article, I will consider that writing it was well worthwhile. After all, we are put on this earth to help each other.

Signed,

Joe

*EDITOR’S NOTE*

Joe died suddenly on January 27th of a perforated rectum.  The police report says he was found with a Calloway extra long 50-inch Big Bertha Driver II golf club jammed up his rear end, with barely 5 inches of grip showing and a sledge hammer laying nearby.

His wife Bev was arrested and charged with murder. The all-woman jury took only 15 minutes to find her Not Guilty, accepting her defense that Joe somehow, without looking, accidentally sat down on his golf club.

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Women are entitled to an erotic massage. Men visit massage parlours all the time and partake of the little “extras” offered by the masseuse. They are nearly always assured of a “happy ending” to their massage. Getting “the works” for men can be the norm. Is it possible women may have the opportunity to get an erotic G-Spot massage?

Article by  Kate Spicer

Tropicana is an expensive beach club on Cala Jondal in Ibiza. The loungers have crisp cotton covers, the juices are freshly squeezed and the staff wear natty, tennis club-style whites. There are massage therapists working under the trees. A socialite tells me about the last time she visited: “My friend came over rather flushed and asked to borrow money so she could give the massage guy a bigger tip.” Because allegedly, after asking if it was okay to work on the whole of her chest, the therapist had gone on to expertly bring the lucky girl to orgasm.

There has long been a tradition of the gentleman’s “happy ending”. Back when Indian barbers were eunuchs, a chap could get a shave, a haircut and, afterwards, fellatio. In the Far East today, prostitution still takes place around “barber shops”, much as a certain breed of western “private sauna” or “massage parlour” rarely harbours highly trained Swedish masseurs. But this is not to say that the odd proper therapist doesn’t offer soothing extras, too.

A few years ago, on his honeymoon, Kevin Costner was accused of exposing himself to his masseuse at the Old Course Hotel Spa at St Andrews, and then proceeding to ensure that his “ending” was a self-induced “happy” one. Costner has always denied the allegation, but it was too late: the happy ending had gone mainstream.

For a man to be asked, “You want everything?” is not — in certain geographical locations or clearly signposted establishments — that unusual. For women, though, it has formerly existed as a disquieting crossing of personal boundaries. From posh gyms in London to misadventures in Indian spas, many women have tales of male therapists making them feel uncomfortable. Friends sometimes tell of dating their masseurs, or, in the case of one, getting off with him then and there in the treatment room. So far, so Samantha Jones.

Yet with our burgeoning love of spa culture, is it reasonable to suppose the odd naughty or, perhaps, “progressive” massage therapist might slip through the net to please a certain type of upmarket lady?

Recently, there has been chatter in the New York press about just such shenanigans in upscale Miami hotels and New York bathhouses: the female “happy ending” is out there.

Grant Stoddard, the author of Working Stiff: The Misadventures of an Accidental Sexpert, tells a story that illustrates the Jackanory finish is not confined to men, and possibly on the increase. “An ex went for a regular massage. It was her first time at this establishment, and the receptionist suggested that she get her massage from George. She called me two hours later to ask me if it was okay that a Chinese guy in scrubs had brought her to orgasm six times. I was more impressed than anything. My girlfriend recommended George to several friends, most of whom went to the massage parlour. George, they were told, had been let go, and nobody hinted at ‘happy endings’ being on offer.”

I rang a New York friend to ask if she knew of any “Georges” in a town known for its demanding girls. “It’s an urban myth,” she howls. “You always hear about the guy who gives a ‘happy ending’, but when it comes to the crunch, nobody has his number. Ever.”

So I set out to find — if not experience — some “happy endings” in London myself, and posted an ad on Gumtree. In 20 answers from both genuine masseurs and dodgy chancers, I found one guy who offered “delightful Hawaiian lomilomi massage the naturist’s way”. Another came with several qualifications, including a diploma in sports and remedial massage. As I posed as a nervous potential client, he explained: “I try to make people relaxed and happy. The ending is sensual and arousing, but it is done without any form of penetration. I do know how to give an amazing orgasm without .” We talk a little about pressure points and human anatomy. I wonder how he broaches the subject of “extras”? “When you  massage a person, you ask how they want it: soft, medium or firm. You then ask what parts they want massaged: if they say yes to inner thighs, buttocks and the chest, and if they want to be totally naked, you generally get an idea of what they really mean.”

Technically, with women’s erogenous zones so much less defined than men’s, the “happy ending” is a grey area. What is actually a benign, relaxing massage for most could be sensual ecstasy for the overexcitable or an excruciating invasion of personal space for the physically shy. But talking to this particular “therapist”, it is clear that his “extras” clients are not surprised by how his massages end.

One of his qualifications comes from the Manchester School of Massage, where a spokeswoman, Lucy Johnson, says: “As soon as the therapist feels uncomfortable, we [teach them] that they should stop and leave the room.” She found my insistence that one of its alumni offered “happy endings” unbelievable. Wendy Kavanagh of the General Council for Massage Therapy gave me equally short shrift. “This is a therapeutic profession to be classed alongside chiropractic or physiotherapy, and if someone is offering sexual services, they should not be allowed to practise.”

How, then, to regulate the emergence of the practitioners of tantric therapies, for whom the yoni massage is part of an ancient Indian tradition? “Yoni” is the Sanskrit word for “divine passage” — the vagina, in western parlance. I asked the receptionist at Cosmic Touch Creative Therapy whether it offered yoni massage. And yes, indeed, it did. “It is a beautiful, relaxing, full-body massage, enjoyable and healing. Many women, not just lesbians, find they enjoy the sensual touch of another woman.”

At Cosmic Touch, it is obviously important that the client is compliant. Without such demand, we wouldn’t be looking at the small but growing number of tantra practitioners in this country. “The point of our tantric treatments is to cause your sexual energy to rise. Obviously, if our goddess does something to you that you feel uncomfortable with, this will stop the flow of your sexual energy,” says Cosmic Touch.

Why are we so nervous about “happy endings”, when, as many people say, sexual arousal is a matter of being aware of pressure points, and not necessarily a grubby scrum “down there”? Since more and more women are single these days, I wonder if “happy endings” could become the empowered woman’s solution to sexual frustration — sparing them the sordid disappointment of one-night stands? Until relatively recently, hysteria in women was ascribed to either a lack of sex or no gratification from it; physicians would massage the poor patient’s genitals to induce what was medically termed “paroxysm”. Dare I suggest that massage therapists might have the same equally pragmatic approach to the human body?

Would “happy endings” become acceptable if all your friends were doing it, too? A bit like Botox and cocaine, it’s ostensibly a dodgy sort of business, but its definition as such is dictated by your peer group. On a ring round, I found even sexually adventurous friends said: “Nooo!” One told me that when she met her boyfriend, she stopped her entirely proper visits to a male masseur because she felt strange being naked in front of another man.

Even the sexually upfront and enlightened Sam Roddick of Coco de Mer is not keen: “Tantric massage is one thing — it has philosophy, methods and it’s an empowered situation. I can’t imagine other instances where either client or practitioner isn’t being exploited. So little commercial sex is ever fair-trade. I heard there is a guy practising tantric therapies in London who offers G-spot massage. Are you having a laugh?” she hoots. “I’m not paying for that — come on, he’s a bloke. We’re so hazy in our sexual boundaries. And the exploitation goes both ways. A friend told me about getting a ‘happy ending’ from a masseur in Thailand and she had the same justification as men do when they come out of a dodgy massage parlour.

“Women: there’s a lot of free sex out there. Why would you want to pay for it?”

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As Christmas approaches and we start making holiday plans, here are some things to keep in mind.

• That it’s terrible to be alone for the holidays. Reality: This is mostly a projection of married people who fear the unknown or could not tolerate being alone before they were married. The reality is that single people who observe what goes on at holiday get-togethers between couples, 50% of whom are destined to be divorced at some point, think there are worse things than being single.

• That single people are desperate to be invited over for Christmas dinner. Reality: Single people have myriad options and no one to consult. I can go on a cruise, stay home in my bathrobe and declare it a non-holiday, do meaningful volunteer work at the homeless shelter, invite friends over, or get a dinner reservation at a hotel. Or I can accept any one of the numerous invitations I get. Contrary to what you might think, we single people are popular at the holidays. Most of us have accomplished social skills and are welcome additions at holiday gatherings

• Single people don’t know what to do for holidays. Reality: We’re used to planning our social lives actively, good at generating options, used to making unilateral decisions, and accomplished “mixers.” We’re pros!

• Anyone who’s single is fair-game to perform certain social tasks during the holiday celebration. Reality: We like to be cherished guests, just like everyone else. “Can you come for Christmas dinner. I need some help with Aunt Edna?” is not an invitation. If your family doesn’t get along and you’re inviting the single person to “throw a steer in with the bulls,” that’s not nice either. It’s your problem; solve it yourself.

• Single people are available to do certain physical tasks. Reality: This isn’t an invitation either: “Can you come over early and help out in the kitchen. I’ve got my hands full.” What about her husband? Her sisters? As best-friend, yes; as the only working-guest, absolutely not.

• That the only “happy” way to spend the holidays is if you are a couple or part of a family. Reality: If that were so, half the articles on the Internet this time of year wouldn’t be about how to cope with family at the annual holiday get-togethers.

• That single people are miserable during the holidays. Reality: Yes, it can be difficult if it’s their first Christmas after a divorce or after a spouse h as died, but the majority of single people are no more miserable than anyone else, and perhaps less so. Since being single (with grown children), I’ve had the same levels of pleasure, the same good and better holidays, but there’s one thing for sure – I’m more rested, and that in itself goes a long way.

So if you’re thinking about including a single person in your family gathering, make sure it’s because you want them there, not to fulfill a function or because you think they’d be miserable if it weren’t for your invitation. A guest is a guest, whether they’re single or married, and good manners prevail.

by Susan Dunn, MA, The EQ Coach

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• If you yelled for 8 years, 7  months and 6 days you would have  produced enough sound energy to
  heat one cup of coffee.
  (Hardly seems worth it.)
  
• If you farted consistently for 6 years and 9 months, enough gas  is produced to create the energy of an atomic bomb.
  (Now that’s more like it!) 
• The human heart creates enough  pressure when it pumps out to  the body to squirt blood 30 feet.
  (O.M.G.!) 
• A pig’s orgasm lasts 30 minutes.
  (In my next life, I want to be a pig.) 
• A cockroach will live nine days without its head before it starves to death.
  (Creepy, but I’m still not over the pig) 
• Banging your head against a wall uses 150 calories a hour
  (Don’t try this at home,maybe at work) 
• The male praying mantis cannot copulate while its head is attached to its body. The female initiates sex by ripping the male’s head off.
  (“Honey, I’m home. What  the..?!”) 
• The flea can jump 350 times its body length. It’s like a human jumping the length of a football field.
  (30 minutes..lucky pig! Can  you imagine?) 
• The catfish has over 27,000 taste buds.
  (What could be so tasty on the bottom of a pond?) 
• Some lions mate over 50 times a day.
  (I still want to be a pig in my next life..quality over quantity) 
• Butterflies taste with their feet
  (Something I always wanted to know.) 
• The strongest muscle in the body is the tongue.
  (Hmmmmmm….) 
• Right-handed people live, on average, nine years longer than left-handed people.
  (If you’re ambidextrous, do you split the difference?) 
• Elephants are the only animals that cannot jump.
  (okay, so that would be a good thing) 
• A cat’s urine glows under a black light.
  (I wonder who was paid to figure that out?) 
• An ostrich’s eye is bigger than its brain.
  ( Sounds like my ex-husband.) 
• Starfish have no brains
  (Ditto – ex-husband and a few people I know.) 
• Polar bears are left-handed.
  (If they switch, they’ll live a lot longer) 
• Humans and dolphins are the only species that have sex for pleasure.
  (What about that pig??) 

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Put quite simply, it is a relationship between an older woman and a younger man.

It seems there’s been an increase in this type of relationship over the last few years. But it is also something that has existed for a long time. It is often the older celebrity woman that gets noticed by the media when they have a relationship with a younger man. People like, Mae West, Mary Tyler Moore, Raquel Welsh and Susan Sarandon.

But what’s the attraction in a cougar relationship?

It has often been said that opposites attract, which is why men and women get together. Traditionally tough it has been the older man with a younger woman, usually not more than a few years between them. But why shouldn’t a man have a relationship with an older woman or indeed a woman have a relationship with a younger man. In societies nowadays, barriers are being broken down everywhere so why are cougar relationships still seen as unusual?

An estimate says that about 1/3rd of women aged 40 or over have dated younger men. So what’s the attraction for these women?

• Is it simply sexual, thinking that a younger man will have more stamina and satisfy them better?
• Is it a power thing, do these women enjoy having influence or a ‘mothering’ aspect over their partner?
• Is it simply female ‘trophy hunting’, are these younger men used as ‘trophy partners’. Maybe such women are trying to prove to themselves that they are still attractive and able to pull young virile men, possibly they have problems accepting their real age. Or is it simply that these women enjoy a loving successful relationship with a man who just happens to be their junior?

But what’s the attraction for the man? Does he see the woman as a ‘mother figure’? Does he see her as an older experienced woman; someone who will ‘teach’ him. Again, is it a ‘power thing’? does the guy see the wealthy, older woman as being powerful and feel that he will gain some power by being associated with her? Or could it simply be that the man is enjoying a loving relationship with a woman who just happens to be older?

Well, the answers are going to be as varied in number according to the number of such relationships. You see, each relationship is different and may involve many of the aspects mentioned above and maybe more. The point is, that such relationships should not be seen as unusual like they traditionally have been.

Yet there are problems with cougar relationships. Can such a relationship last as one partner gets older and the other has yet to reach middle age. Can such relationships bear the stress of having children. What if there are children already involved perhaps from previous relationships, especially if the children are older than the male partner!

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This same mind set can be applied when referring the older women dating a younger man. When a mature woman dates someone her age or older she is likely to be congratulated on her relationship. But if the guy is a younger man, it may be considered unacceptable and even scandalous.

It’s not unusual for the younger man dating an older women to brag about his relationship to his friends, but very often the relationship is kept hidden from his family. Many young men don’t appear to have the guts to tell their families. They believe that their family and in particular their parents are not ready for their older woman/younger man relationship.

Is it possible that society is bogged down by numbers and is completely overlooking the benefits of any relationship that gives the partners love and satisfaction? It is highly likely that the families of these May to December romances have a long way to come before the young men will feel confident enough to step up and declare their love and fascination with older women.

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